The rule is simple: you have to pick one. No "both," no "neither." Take turns reading a question out loud, both answer, then ask why — that's usually where the actual conversation starts.
Everyday
- Would you rather always know what I'm thinking, or always know what I'm feeling?
- Would you rather we never argue again, or never stop talking about the hard stuff?
- Would you rather I plan every date from now on, or you do?
- Would you rather have one really good night together a week, or five decent ones?
- Would you rather I always tell you the truth immediately, or gently, later?
- Would you rather we travel constantly, or stay home for good?
Deep
- Would you rather know how our relationship ends, or never know and just live it?
- Would you rather I change something about myself you've never mentioned, or you never mention it at all?
- Would you rather we agree on everything important and disagree on everything small, or the reverse?
- Would you rather I remember every anniversary perfectly, or remember what you actually needed that day?
- Would you rather have a harder year that made us closer, or an easier year that kept us the same?
- Would you rather I tell you exactly what I need from you, or we figure it out together, slowly?
Spicy
- Would you rather I tell you exactly what I'm thinking about you right now, or show you later?
- Would you rather a slow night in or a spontaneous night out, just the two of us?
- Would you rather I surprise you, or you surprise me tonight?
- Would you rather the lights off or on?
- Would you rather I whisper it or text it?
- Would you rather one long night together, or three short ones this week?
Never Have I Ever, for couples
Same rule as always: if you've done it, put a finger down (or take a sip). This version is about the two of you, not the party.
About us
- Never have I ever forgotten something important you told me.
- Never have I ever been jealous of how you looked at someone else.
- Never have I ever pretended to be fine when I wasn't, just to avoid a conversation.
- Never have I ever changed my mind about something big because of you.
- Never have I ever gone to bed angry on purpose.
Spicy
- Never have I ever thought about you in the middle of a meeting.
- Never have I ever planned something just to see your reaction.
- Never have I ever wanted to skip our plans and just stay in with you.
- Never have I ever kept a compliment about you to myself when I should've said it out loud.
- Never have I ever done something just because I knew you'd like it.